THE INNER LOVER

Whenever you compare yourself with someone, you are comparing a limited version and perspective of someone, to the whole version of yourself.

You can only perceive what the other allows you to perceive, the surface of their being. But you know every aspect of your being.

Just because someone appears calm, does not mean they feel calm. Or beautiful, attractive, successful, etc. I had many instances of people telling me how "chill" I appeared, only to my shock since I did not feel chill at all at those moments.

You cannot take a portion of a person and compare your whole self to that. You do not know their story, their thoughts and beliefs.

Most people fail at "self love" because they are attempting to feel towards themselves, what they feel towards others. That is impossible as we are under the illusion of location ("I am this body in this place at this time"), so you know yourself in a way that you do not know other people.

Which means you cannot expect yourself to be in awe of your own doings, as YOU did them. There's nothing new for you. You are used to you.

We admire things that are polarized. That are different than us.

The only way to achieve real self love is to get out of the Self and enter the Lover perspective.

We all have the Lover within our psyche, but we're usually under the illusion that we are only the Beloved. Waiting externally for the Lover to make us feel loved.

When you get in touch with your inner Lover, you'll actually start to love yourself as God does, as a Father, as...a Lover. Your inner Soulmate.

That's when you stop needing external validation, as you do not love and admire people because others do too. No, you simply do it regardless if anyone else sees what you see or not. And you stick up for them and praise them.

But we feel a lot of resistance on doing that to ourselves, because we believe we are only this one character, when in reality, we are everyone and we're always playing out different characters within ourselves.

Detach from the one self, uncover the infinite beings within yourself, including your Lover. That loves you wildly and unconditionally. ❤️