The Illusion of Restrain

The illusion that we are under control, that we are limited, manifests itself as our social groups, government, but mostly, as our family.

The vast majority of people believe wholeheartedly that no matter what, we are obligated to endure our family. For no valid pr rational reason, just "because it's FAMILY!".

This makes no sense since we should NEVER endure anything or anyone that tries to enslave us, control or restrict us. Regardless of their intentions.

As a baby you need a mother but as you grow older you should not fall under the illusion that you are still under "mother's" restrain.

You do not owe any explanation whatsoever of your actions to anyone. To believe so is to be deluded. To think you need to convince people to understand you, to force them your perspective and point of view, to strive for their approval, etc. This comes from your own lack of confidence in who you are, and your choices. So much so that you overcompensate by trying to manifest external validation, to fill the internal void of your own self-doubt.

I spent years feeling confined by others, never expressing myself out of fear of being misinterpreted. When that is not at all my responsibility. If someone doesn't have the capability to understand what I say or do, I don't need to strive for them to do so. I know my values, what I stand for and my integrity, so I don't need to prove it to those who project their own insecurities and limitations unto me.

I've also watched many close friends endure chaotic and obnoxious family members out of the illusion that they "had to". No one has to anything. If someone is stepping into your boundaries, if you feel a certain way about someone, do not confine yourself and let them walk all over you simply because you believe you have some invisible obligation to them.

You are FREE. You do not have obligations to anything. You have choices. Even if you see something as an obligation, it is not literally so. So either WILLINGLY choose to do what you will. Or else you are doing someone else's will, forcing yourself. And whenever you force yourself, your subconscious finds a way to express itself. And that's where negative manifestations happen.